Memory Wall


Remembering those who have lost their lives to prescription drugs and heroin.


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Jake Brown
February 13, 1991 – August 3, 2011

Jake was a beautiful light in the lives of so many people. He is still loved and missed dearly every single day.

Submitted by Alexa Wallace


IMG_0001Jerry Thomas Davis
January 24, 1983 – December 1, 2012

Our beloved Jerry Thomas Davis came into this world on Jan. 24, 1983 and was taken away on Dec. 1 2012, way too early. JT left his mother and I with two beautiful grandchildren that we will love and cherish for all of our days.

Our son had one of those personalities that attracted people and everyone he came in contact with loved him. He was outgoing and full of humor and life. Like all little boys he grew up loving race cars and found a way to make them a big part of his life. He is loved and missed by his racing family very much.

JT was a wonderful father and his children adored him and miss him dearly. It breaks our hearts to that he is not here to watch them grow and that they will go through life without him.

As the two-year anniversary of our son’s passing approaches we find ourselves still living in a world that doesn’t seem real. Expecting that at any moment that phone will ring or there will be a knock at the door and there he will be to tell us it was all a big mistake. Heroin snuck in like a thief in the night and took our beloved son and left a trail of pain in its wake and a hole in our world and hearts that will never go away.

Until we meet again in heaven J, please know that we all miss you and love you.

Submitted by Jerry and Marcie Davis, and Tarin and Brett Forsyth


Drew playing game
Drew Cochran
Heroin overdose, November 26, 2013 – 23 years old


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Dashiell Unkefer
November 15, 1979 – April 10, 2005


Dean Skinner, Jr.

October 16, 1986 – January 20, 2009

We lost our son to an accidental overdose of Darvocet, over-the-counter Coriciden high blood pressure cold medicine and alcohol. He just went to sleep and never woke up…all within six hours. A life taken too soon for a careless decision to get high. He was a caring person with a personality that could bring a smile to your face always. My baby boy now lives with the angels and watches over us as we did for him the 22 years that he was here. We love you and miss you with all our hearts and you are always with us.

Submitted by Dean and Darlene Skinner* (Mama and Daddy)
Melissa Edison (Sister)
Cole Edison (Nephew)
*Darlene welcomes anyone who has experienced this type of loss to contact her at scoooby3@yahoo.com.


Matt

Matt died on September 2, 2010 of a heroin overdose. Please visit his mother’s blog, My Dead Son’s Journals, to learn more about his fight with opiates.

Submitted by Jane


Jeremy Traylor

November 26, 1990 – May 20, 2009

Submitted by Melissa Pavel Traylor


Three Brothers

Submitted by Kathleen Friedmann


Emily Jackson

Emily Jackson died on August 18, 2006 at the age of 18. She was three days from her first day in college.

Submitted by Pete Jackson


Michael Broderick Hyde

September 2, 1985 – January 17, 2010

Our son was raised in a happy and loving home of moderate means. He was a great athlete, the star pitcher in baseball and running back in football. He picked up everything very easily and had a great mind. As we have found in our area, you really cannot tell a drug addict any more, they all start with Oxys and end up shooting heroin because they can no longer afford the Oxys. We have found all the kids that we have had on medical aids to be great kids, middle to top of their class, well-liked, confident types and like myself and my wife, none of us had any idea of the Oxy abuse and only found out about the drug problems when it turned to heroin usage. Parents need to pay particular attention to their children. Look into their eyes every time you talk to them, if their pupils are pinpoints they are most likely using Oxys and unless you get them help immediately, you will suffer the same results that we did. Only 2 percent of heroin users ever get off heroin…FACT.

Submitted by Bill and Theresa Hyde


Patrick M. Stewart

1980 – 2004

Submitted by Barbara Van Rooyan


Jonathan P. Champigny

May 24, 1982 – December 31, 2007

Jon made a friend everywhere he went and treated everyone with dignity and respect. His love and kind spirit are carried on by those of us who were blessed with the gift of his life.

Submitted by Vanessa C. McGunnigle


Adam Joseph DePaolo

August 8, 1983 – April 3, 2009

Adam Joseph DePaolo was born on August 8th, 1983 and was my most beautiful gift ever! I had to return my gift on April 3rd, 2009 because drugs had worn him down, and he just could not face those demons anymore. He was my heart, my soul, my son and I loved him with everything I had! He is missed terribly every day!

Submitted by Debbie Donnelly



Pat Daly

July 15, 1988 – February 4, 2009

Pat was a gentle soul who embraced life with an open heart and the biggest smile. He was well-loved, and his own love for his family and friends was unconditional and without boundaries. While his life was short, his adventures were many, and he knew no fear. He laughed and jumped out of trees and gave the warmest hugs. Pat loved exploring and learning about the world, and greeted everyone he met with a broad grin. He was the kindest person, and is missed deeply.

Submitted by the Daly family

24 Responses to Memory Wall

  1. Tammy says:

    Lost my daughter this past spring…she started with oxycontin that a so called friend stole from his grandmother who had cancer–got hooked ended up on heroin, then methadone, at 24y/o lost her life to heroin–I miss her so much-she was a good person wanted to be liked & tried to please everyone and so beautiful.

  2. Melinda Bilby says:

    4 years ago tonight my 20 year old son lost his life to an oxycontin overdose. He left behind an older sister , younger brother, stepsister, mother, father, stepfather, and even 1 greatgrandmother outlived him. February 18th 2007 was the very worst day of my life. Three days later he was buried in a country cemetery in Georgia and I actually watched them dig the grave. The second worst day of my life. You never get over it as a mother, you come to terms with it. I miss him terribly and always think of the good times we had and what a sweet and respectful child and young man he was. It’s amazing to me that the greed of pharmecutical companies and these pill mills and loser doctors that work in them continue on today. They are inhilating our youth and getting away with it. I pray everyday that their evils will be repayed. I pray tonight that my son is at peace and in God’s presence as I remember how he died alone in a tent on a very cold night. A mother’s love for a child never dies, even if the child does. I know he hears my prayers to him, and at times I feel his presence very strongly. I will see him again someday, until then I have to be satisfied with prayers and memories.

    • Erin Marie Daly says:

      Melinda, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve been speaking with a lot of mothers about the particular horror of losing a child to Oxy. In many parts of the countries moms are coming together to support each other with groups like Learn to Cope on the east coast – or in my area (Northern California) Mothers with a Purpose. Let me know if you want to get in touch with some of these women; maybe they’d be able to offer support over the phone or have some suggestions.

  3. Jane Funk says:

    My son died in Sept. 2010 of heroin. However, if you read the story he penned, you will see that it all started with Vicodin, a synthetic opiate mix, at age 16. Personally, I see no need to be subscribing opiates of any form to people. Society managed just fine without them previous to their onset. As far as I am aware, true opiates are usually subscribed in supostitory form for patients dying of incureable malidies. My son’s entire life was changed by a happenchance toe infection and an innocent prescription. Has anyone crunched the numbers on opiate related deaths to prescriptions sold? How many dead people does it take to relieve the pain of others?

  4. Shannon says:

    I lost my beautiful little sister just two months ago. Reading all of your stories makes me cry. I miss my sister so much and wish their was more I would have and could have done for her. She was a good person with a good heart. It’s so sad to see all these beautiful young people losing their lives to this horrible addiction. Something needs to be done. I wish I knew what? I would be happy to help if I knew what that was. Our society is so infested with drug use, it’s awful. I don’t know where to begin.

  5. anonymous says:

    im a 22 year old pain killer addict, i started when i was a freshman in high school, stealing my moms 7.5mg vicodin. i was never a heavy user until i graduated high school . i was introduced to 30mg roxicodone. started taking one a day and selling them and making good money. then i found myself selling them just so i could support my habit, which at this point is about 25 roxicodone a day. to this day im still an addict. i have wanted to go to a rehab or somewhere to get help, but i do not have coverage. and i don’t qualify for any because they check to see how much i make a year, which i work all year and make 40 dollars an hour(new york construction)….they say i should be able to afford it but any addict knows that’s easier said then done. if i could pay for treatment i obviously wouldn’t have a problem with drugs. but because i do, each check i get a week go right up my nose….im getting very nervous because i when i have a huge amount of money ill probably OD. and im about to settle a lawsuit where i was hurt on the job. im looking at 500,000 to 800,000….i dont want to hear that bullshit people say like “if you really wanted help you would put that money towards getting it”…that is insanely hard with the withdrawals…i can deal with them all day, but its at night when i cant sleep, and keep staring at the clock, one time i went cold turkey for 6 days, no sleep, puking, cold/hot sweats, shaking, anti social, no eating… then i gave in. i have made hundreds of attempts like that. honestly the closest i ever came to quitting, was when i traded roxis for suboxen(the little film that you put under your tongue and looks like an orange Listerine strips) i took one of those after 2 full days of not doing any pain killer, and at first the sub actually made me feel high….but then after that i didnt get any feeling from it, but i had no withdraws at all….if i knew someone who had em around here(i live in pennsylvania, work in new york, get most drugs in ny) id get em, i really feel that if i had enough to last me a month id be clean. im rambling, if anyone has any ideas, leave em and ill check this site every day…im sorry for all your losses, i know what they all were probably going through.

    • Sherri says:

      Our son died on Sept 22, 2012 he also was addicted to OxyContin , he asked us for help. We took him to the hospital sept 11 , 2011 they gave him withdrawal med’s to help and they did, but his urges returned, he then took some money from a friend and got caught in Jan and could have gone to jail, friends wanted to help him so didn’t prosecute. He went to Narcodics Anynomous N/A , he also had no insurance and no place would take him. He would cry to me at night and tell me he couldn’t beat this thing , it to big he would say. He had done really well for about 4 months and then started drinking , went out for the 1st time Sept 21st , was alive at 1:54 am sept 22nd “per his phone” went to sleep and never woke again. We haven’t got his toxicology report back from the autopsy but We are pretty sure he ran into someone and purchased a oxy, IT ONLY TAKES ONE TIME! Get yourself some help before you go to sleep never to wake up! Our son was 31 had his whole life ahead of him!
      I am a heartbroken mom that would give anything to have him back, I have never hurt so bad in my life! Don’t let your mom go through this! I know you can go through Salvation Army I believe for help, but you have to commit to 6 months, do it, let them help you though this, do it for YOU!
      You can also go to FreeFromhell.com or on YouTube , he has been through it and is willing to talk to and help whoever he can! I wish I would have contacted him, maybe my son would still be alive today!

    • Alexandrea Trindade says:

      ANON, Id like to say that I appreciate your honesty. Its been a while since your post and Im not sure if you will ever see this however I felt led to respond. My name is Alex and I also was addicted to prescription pain killers. In 2010 I hit rock bottom. I was doing things I never thought I would do just to get high and I was stuck in what seemed to be the endless cycle of addiction. I hated the person I had become and the people I hurt on my path to self destruction. I was living in my own fantasy world and it took a crisis in my life and just pure exhaustion to finally wake me up. Because I was broke and my family was having financial struggles I could not afford one of those fancy treatment centers and now I am grateful that I couldn’t. By word of mouth my family found out about The Refuge Ranch in Okeechobee, Fl. It is a Christ centered 1 year residential regeneration program for women In addiction. They ask for a small program payment but will not turn a woman down because she can not pay. All that is required is a desperate woman that realizes that she will die if she doesn’t get help. I came into the program in April of 2010, I was saved and began to develop a relationship with Jesus Christ. It is an intense program, I was able to face reality and the things I had done, I was able to identify the things that caused me to want to use drugs and numb in the first place and I was able to get healing from painful things in my past. It felt like for the first time ever I was seeing things clearly. I have been sober for 2yrs. 9mos. and I mean sober, no alcohol, no cigs., no prescription medication, Xanax, no narcotics at all, nothing. I work here at the Refuge Ranch and love it. I am able to minister to others because of my relationship with Christ through my testimony and personal experience. ANON assuming you are male?, there is a mens program not far from here that is almost exact to this one but tailored to men. http://www.dunklin.org I promise if you want help there is healing and hope to be had. Oh and something else, you have to count the costs, no job is worth your life. Be willing to let go.

      God Bless

    • Jax Lamoree says:

      Best thing I ever did was go into a medical detox center. They will dose you all day long and in the night so you are comfortable. By the 3rd day your much better. I didn’t go into a program I just did 90 meetings in 90 days and got a sponsor. Life is so much more worth living, than having that constant pill monkey on your back! Ugh! I have stayed sober one hour one day at a time. Please just make all the calls you can to any place that can medically detox you, ask for help financially. You search and search until someone helps you. Call a NA hotline. Wish you the best and I have been right where you are this very moment. I chose FREEDOM!

    • ny6yearsclean says:

      here is a website for suboxen doctors in PA. I know people who have had great success with it, over five years clean. best of luck. it can be pricey but worth it. also methadone is an option, less expensive… You don’t have insurance? Most NY construction is union with insurance and the union can help you seek detox and treatment (a good friend had his union help him find a nice resort like place upstate). If you work off the books you likely can get help paying for medical and many places offer treatment on sliding scale fees). Fist and foremost your life is more important than anything and you should seek help no matter what.`
      http://suboxone.com/patients/opioid_dependence/find_a_doctor.aspx?gclid=CJC53eC4prYCFRCf4AodDgUA7Q

    • julie says:

      I completely agree with what you said. My son died in 2011 in a drug rehab. I thought he was safe there. I found a journal where he said “suboxone saved his
      life for 5 1/2 months” His insurance ran out and he could not get suboxone. I am so sorry for you and wish we could hold companies responsible for this.

  6. Jon says:

    Ive lost 6 friends to oxy since 2002. I too struggle with the drug. I just want to pay my respects to everyone who has lost loved ones. To those still struggling- dont give up the fight and remember how many people that will be affected if we lose our battle.

  7. Jon says:

    I would also like to put photos of my friends, but dont know how. This memorial wall is amazing and it’s important to remember these kids who lives were cut short. My generation is slowly dying and people have no idea.

  8. Jen says:

    Don’t know if Anon is still reading this site. If so- my boyfriend was from Pennsylvania and I live in New York. He was addicted to heroin- and was also the most beautiful person I have ever known. He would do anything for the people he cared about because he had such a generous heart. The most difficult day of my life was when I came home from work and found him dead. That will be an image that I will never be able to erase from my memory. But even more powerful than that is the frustration and sadness i feel thinking about the life we could have shared together if he could have been healthy. I miss him every day. He died 12 years ago and I am married now. Steve still impacts my Life in wonderful ways, but I sure do wish he could be here to share with me.

  9. Jennifer says:

    I lost a very good friend to heroin on April 12th, 2011. A lost another one August 13th, 2010. The friend who died in April told me about his passing. On October 18th, 2011, I lost another one. Then September 25th, 2012, another one passed. All of these were heroin related, not oxycontin. I myself was addicted for two years, and have been clean now 14 months. To everyone who witnesses the struggle, has witnessed it, or is struggling themselves. Know there is hope for recovery.

  10. Kelsy says:

    I would like to start off by saying sorry to everyone who has lost someone, to addiction.

    I personally am struggling with my demons. I am 27yrs old and have been using for 10years. I have been to rehab, 3-4 times- all my choice. But…it failed.
    My addiction started after a one-day surgery, gone bad. The doctor almost killed me & only helped an addiction start (Addiction runs in my family and I do believe it is hereditary).
    I swallowed, then snorted, and then injected. I was diagnosed with Hep C, a year ago.
    I have watched my recent ex-bfs brother, die from alcoholism within 6 months. My uncle shot himself in the head, due to alcholism….a year later…his soun/my cuz went to his grave & shot himself.
    I have seen addiction kill people around me. I am killing myself. I used to go to AA. But my pill addiction took off, like wildfire. I want to stop…but the detox is so painful. there are NO words for the pain it causes..physically and emotionally. It hurts the loved ones around us…yet….we cannot stop.
    I do NOT wish addiction apon my own worst enemy!

  11. tm says:

    im 16 years old i got cought up at school with two hydrocodone pills i gave one to my friend i would always want to know how snorting a pill felt like until i got cought i rather have gotten cought than gotten away with it because then i belive i would have became an addict to prescription pills and now im in danger of getting expelled because of a stupid choice i made…..and im very sorry for all of your loses

  12. Cheryl Giles says:

    I seriously want and need to start public awareness of drug related deaths in our community. My husband and I have 2 children who suffered drug additions in their teens and…I could sit here and tell you history, but what really matters to me RIGHT now, is to have a public forum in our city to raise awareness of the young adults that have died from drug related experiences. How do I do this and make a difference with community involvement…in mind? This crosses all socio-economic lines…help me help our neighbors. Thank you.

  13. Jonathan says:

    My name is Jonathan and I’m 21 years old, I am a recovering heroin addict. My dad died of a heroin overdose three days after my 5th birthday, and that has always haunted me. I always said i’d never turn out like him and I did. Even after going to 7 rehabs and 5 detox’s In my mind I always think that I can always do it again but I know I cant but I always still think that. The demons in my head are what lead me to start doing heroin when I was 15 years old. But even when i’m clean now almost 11 months I still think that i’m not good enough to stay clean and my head always tell me to go back out because no one will care. But luckily I don’t and hopefully never will. Even though all of this is going through my head I still try to look to the bright side which is I’ve been clean longer now that I ever have and my life is finally getting back into place. My family is starting to talk to me again which I never thought would happen, and I am finally able to find a job and keep it longer than a week.

  14. Natalie says:

    I lost my mother to a methadone overdose on February 08, 2007. It was so painful that I couldn’t breathe when my brother told me the news. I knew she was a lifetime alcoholic and drug addict, yet her death still shook me to my core. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of her and wonder where she is. I hope she’s at peace, but I haven’t been given that reassurance.
    I would urge all of those out there struggling with a serious addiction to seek help without delay. Please don’t put your family through the grief of an overdose death. It really hurts so badly to have a family member die suddenly like that.
    My heart goes out to all who have experienced this unique type of loss. I wish I could say it gets better, but it doesn’t. All we can do is carry on, and trust that God is indeed as merciful (if not more so) than we believe Him to be. Peace.

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